Every family no matter what the situation or circumstance is going to run into obstacles and hardships. Things are not always going to go as planned and there is nothing we can do about it. These are times when individuals have the opportunity to respond in a positive way and be a problem solver or they can be negative and add additional stress to the situation. A lot of times there are stressors that every family is going to face and it would be helpful to be able to identify these before they happen so you have the chance to come up with a solution. I think each individual child will bring different stressors to the family. Some kids might pick on their siblings while others are rebellious to rules. As a parent you have to respond to different stress situations in different ways depending on the personality of the child.
In class we were taught the ABCX model:
Actual (the stressful event)
Both (the resources and responses)
Cognitions
total eXperience
This is a simple breakdown of the different points that make up the complete stressful experience.
It is always better to react to a problem calmly then dramatically. It only causes the issue to escalate into something bigger than it is if you make it that way. Don't create a bigger problem then is already there.
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